tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2092235816323095802.post3752146720973163186..comments2023-11-05T13:10:43.138+05:30Comments on CAT&CHAOS: Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2092235816323095802.post-47297644747214467622009-03-24T08:47:00.000+05:302009-03-24T08:47:00.000+05:30This leaves me even more confused than I was befor...This leaves me even more confused than I was before I began to read. IMHO, there can be no standard upbringing rules other than...'watch what your own child is comfortable with'.<BR/><BR/>Mothers, (I plead guilty), who want to WIDEN horizons for their kids are spending their days planning kid's activities. From when they wake up to when they go to bed is decided by US. THIS is best for them. How do we know? Have we let them decide ANYTHING? Their decisions are going to be completely based on our programming. And these are children of parents who want more 'freedom' for our kids<BR/><BR/>Can speak for myself and my friends: I was very comfortable doing my homework in the evenings after school and revisions on Saturdays. I knew what marks to expect before my results were out, so report card day wasn't stressful. There were kids who'd roam around the exam site, last minute, with books in their hands reading and mugging up as if God had ordered it. I was the kind who'd understand the topics I liked the first time they was explained and others wouldn't find their way into my gray cells even if they were fed to me IV. I had friends who scored great marks in all subjects but today can't remember one line of anything they learnt. Atleast I remember everything I learnt because I mostly absorbed what I liked and very little of what I didn't.<BR/><BR/>Also, comfort, I guess is the bottom line...but then there is competition waiting around the corner. And comparisons. Even if we ignore them, they stare us in the face. So...it is upto us how we deal with them. <BR/><BR/>You play carrom, you don't know how many men you won. You play cards and nobody wins. You play tennis and there are no scores. You run a race...and nobody comes first. Nice? I don't think so.<BR/><BR/>Responsibility and discipline are important. And whatever it takes to ensure our kids have them in big quantities, they must get!A.I.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01157788595540667292noreply@blogger.com